First Time Gay Sex

Anyone experiencing intimacy with another person, for first time gay sex, can feel many emotions. First-time sex can also be a scary thought for those with no experience. So many questions arise from situations where it gets intimate. It is common to worry about whether our partner will like our body. We worry whether we are kissing them right or even whether we are touching them the right way. It can be a cold shower in an otherwise romantic situation if we start to panic too much about doing everything properly.

There is plenty of information about first time gay sex. The information mostly covers the usual safety precautions and suggestions to wear a condom, no matter who you are sleeping with. The one question people cannot answer for you though is how it is going to feel. Some will say it hurts the first time, others will say different. Some will say the first time was gentle, memorable and wonderful. Others will say they prefer to forget it because it was clumsy and dreadful! It’s all a matter of perspective. Be realistic about how your first time might be. Don’t set yourself up to be disappointed.

If you are contemplating consummating your relationship for the first time, then it is suggested that you don’t try to force anything. Gay sex is the same as any other sex except for the obvious difference of which orifice is used.

First Time Gay Sex Intimacy

Intimacy is not about sex as much as it is about the other person. It is more about sharing your body with them, kissing, caressing and touching, loving and caring. The first time for most people is usually visualized as a romantic sexy affair. An experience where you fall into bed together and take things gently and slowly, and let them progress as they may.

Set the evening up, if you can, by having a romantic meal. Make it a light meal, such as fish or chicken, so you both don’t get all bloated and tired from eating. If you feel the need to include some alcohol, (although it is not advised) have a little, and don’t get so drunk that you can’t perform. Just have a drink or two to relax you if you necessary. Drugs are always a no-no. You must keep your wits about you. While many guys feel alcohol (or drugs) makes them perform better, just the opposite is actually true.

Set Yourself Up For Success

When it comes to the bedroom, set the scene a little and make it nice. Create a mood that you both feel comfortable with. Sit together on the sofa or bed and just kiss. Explore each others mouths and erogenous zones like the neck, ear lobes, shoulders and back of the neck. Knowing your own body well will help you to know your partner’s body. There are not many people who dislike having their neck kissed and if it turns you on it will very likely get them going too!

It is possibly an unlikely scenario that both you and your partner will both be virgins to gay sex. One of you may have limited or little experience but may well have tried it before. If it turns out that you are both trying it for the first time use lubrication. It is vital for anal penetration. Use plenty of it and go slow so you and your partner don’t cause each other an injury. Even experienced people use lubrication, so even after the first time, keep using it.

Right Sex and Wrong Sex?

There is no particular right way or wrong way to have sex, but there is a caveat attached to that statement. Something your partner does to you, or you do to them might still not feel right for either of you. Therefore, communication is of the utmost importance. You must learn to tell each other the things you like when they are doing it, as well as the things you don’t like.
Men tend to make a more physical connection (rather than emotional) when having sex. Yes, that is a sweeping statement. It is generalizing, but on the whole it is probably closer to the truth than some would admit. This means men might tend to get a little more ‘passionate’ and forceful when it comes to sexual penetration.

Talking during sex can be a turn on for some and a turn off for others. You might take the chance of asking your partner if they like what you are doing to them and gauge their response. It might be a quick “huh….yeahhh, don’t stop” or it might be a “shut up and carry on” so be prepared. Either way, those are good responses, so it means you are doing something right!

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